I talk quite a bit on this blog about “inspired living,” but I realize that I have yet to effectively communicate what that means, so I’ve decided to dedicate this post to some of the lessons I’ve learned about what it means to live an “inspired” life.
In my post on Faith, Femininity, and Multi-Grain Hot Cereal, I talk about the importance of faith in my life. I am, to be sure, a deeply spiritual being, although I do not follow any sort of conventional religion. I spend a great deal of time meditating and reflecting on the life lessons I’ve learned and the bits of wisdom that might be gleaned from them. Here are some of what I consider to be the most fundamental, those that have allowed me to become a happier, healthier, kinder, and better-adjusted human being. I hope that you, too, will find them valuable:
Inspired living is emancipated living. Free your mind. Free yourself.
Understand first that you were not meant to survive, and death is not to be feared. After all, the world that you see has far greater problems than the world you cannot see.
No matter how hard you try, you are not powerful enough to alter your fate.
The present moment is all you ever have. Accept what is. Make peace with what was. And understand that what could have been and wasn’t was not meant to be–at least not at the time or in the way that you desired it.
Your life is never out of control. Every situation in which you find yourself is controlled. Just not by you. Instead of fighting your circumstances, work with them. The more you work with them, the more you “go with the flow,” the less limiting your reality becomes until suddenly, and often at a moment when you least expect it, a new door opens.
You are not the victim of your reality. You are the creator of your reality.
There are no coincidences, and there are no mistakes.
The harshness of your circumstances is nothing compared to the strength within you.
No one owes you anything, not even those who have cheated you, stolen from you, or otherwise taken advantage of you. To believe that you are ever owed or are in some way deserving of anything you do not already have is to measure your self-worth in tangible terms. And your worth is beyond measure. You will never find peace in retribution.
The purpose of your life is not to take, to hoard, or to consume. It is to give without expecting anything in return.
Never take or try to take from another that which is not given freely. Especially love.
Anytime you depend on another person because you fear lack, loss, or loneliness, you are abusing that person. Knock it off.
For as long as other living, feeling beings must suffer in order for you to live, you will never be free.
Self-abuse is not natural. It is tragic.
Belong to yourself. In order to live fully and freely, to love deeply and selflessly, you must be free from dependency. You are a being unto yourself. You always have been, and you always will be. Only your ego keeps you from recognizing that.
God is love. The world around you was born from that love, and so were you.
Forgive. You are obliged to forgive those who have wronged you because you yourself are forgiven. Know that. You are always forgiven. Although it might be hard to imagine, there are no unforgivable offenses. Not even the most heinous or unpardonable. Your heart will be much, much lighter once you understand that.
Being forgiven does not mean being free from the consequences of your actions. Love forgives, but love is also just.